What I Wish I Knew Going Into Labor

Disclaimer: I am not a nurse or doctor. The information shared here is based solely on my personal experience as a mom who has gone through labor.

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So, as first-time moms, I’m sure you went through some type of birthing class, whether it was virtual or in person, am I right? Those classes are packed with useful information, but they often focus heavily on managing contractions. Let me tell you, from my experience, pushing turned out to be a whole different ball game. After opting for an epidural—which I requested at the very first hint of contraction pain—I found myself in the trenches of pushing for over three hours. My labor class felt almost like a distant memory as I faced the unexpected challenges of labor and delivery.

There are a few things I wish I’d known beforehand, like how pushing could be so exhausting, the shakes that accompany the rush of hormones, and the surprises like partial water breaks. And let’s not forget about the little things—like the necessity of packing snacks before an epidural and the high likelihood of tearing despite all your preparation.

1. Pushing is SO MUCH harder than the contractions

My birthing class was incredibly helpful, but it mainly focused on managing contraction pain. I opted for an epidural the moment I started feeling contractions, which somewhat rendered my five-hour labor class less applicable. I ended up pushing for over three hours, and by the end, I was completely exhausted. One tip— make sure your partner has a good water bottle with a long straw and a fan to help keep you comfortable during this time.

2. You will MOST LIKELY get the shakes

You will most likely experience the shakes. The flood of adrenaline and hormones can cause you to shake, either during or after labor (I shook the entire time). It’s not painful, just a bit annoying. You can ask for a heated blanket to help calm down, but I found that a cooling towel on my neck was more effective for me.

3. You CAN have a partial water break 

The morning I went into the hospital, I had a partial water break. I knew something had happened, but wasn’t sure if it meant I should head to the hospital. The doctor advised me to come in later that afternoon if I was still exhibiting the symptoms. I did end up having a tiny pin-prick water break and was admitted that evening. THAT BEING SAID, you will know when something is off/different. Listen to your instinct!

4. You CANNOT eat after an epidural 

I’m sure most of you know this, but I did not. You can't eat after an epidural. I didn’t realize this until it was too late. With all the nerves, I didn’t eat as much as I should have and was exhausted by the time I finally got to eat. Make sure to pack snacks, protein bars, and protein shakes to have before your epidural.

5. Tearing is VERY LIKELY

I did all the things - perinatal massages, oil, stretching, you name it. But, I still had a 3rd degree tear (ouch!). I recommend doing what you can to prepare, but if you do end up with stitches, have Tucks Pads, Dermoplast, a Peri Bottle, and Sitz Bath Salts on hand to ease discomfort and speed up healing.

Remember, amid all the chaos and fatigue, this is a special time. Your nerves are completely valid, and every part of this experience, from the discomfort to the joy, is a precious part of bringing your little one into the world. Savor each moment—it truly is magical.

For more tips on postpartum recovery, check out my post here.

YOU GOT THIS, MAMA!